What a Difference a (bunch of) Days Make!

We hit a few bumps in the road last week, could you tell?! I received some responses to the last blog post that we sounded a little set back. Well, we were spending a LOT of time convincing ourselves to be happy and hopeful while we were getting some scary messages about possible changes of plans from T.

There is often discussion around the Adoption Triad - adoptive parents, birth parents and baby. I can see that this will be the focus in the future. For now, the triad consists of our baby's birth mother, us and the agency. It's an interesting balance. We are trying to establish "mutual trust" (T's phrase for this relationship and we love it) and are maintaining frequent contact with her on a personal level.

The agency, meanwhile, is trying to provide for her needs in this final push of her pregnancy. She could use some help and the support our agency provides to birth mothers is one of the main reasons we went with them. But, all of that support and our mutual trust have to be provided and developed in unison for this to work. It wouldn't work for her to fall in love with us and not get enough support from the agency. And, it wouldn't work for the agency to come through in meeting her needs, but for her to be totally turned off by us.

Please keep us, and T, in your prayers and thoughts. We're all trying to wade through a complicated process and we need all the good vibes we can get. In the end, the reward for our emotional adventure will be overwhelmingly joyful, we're sure of that.

At the center of it all is that little baby girl growing inside of T. It feels wonderful when all of us play our part through a challenge and we settle back into the security of knowing this really is the right match.